Time to let go ....How (4)

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So kids and i had fun out at the park before the rain came in. We had a few errands to run before we went home and got caught in a heavy downpour. Went home and ate some lunch. Kids played for a little bit while i did a few chores around the house.

W called kids in late afternoon, they had a quick conversation. didnt seem like either side had much to say. Kids and i decided to head out to Dave and Busters, a big game styke restaurant, we had a blast and started heading home. W still hadnt called to say good night to kids even as it was getting late. When we got home D7 asked to call her since she hadnt yet. I let her call, w did not answer then called back. She was out somewhere again, D7 started asking her why she doesnt call to say good night and where is she and where was she last night. W laughed it off, but doesnt get that she sees W acting like going out is more important. S4 didnt really talk, but when he did he kept telling her he wasnt staying at her house.

So Sunday came and i wasnt looking forward to kids going back. W called kids and i informed her that I could not go through the pictures today as i had somewhere to be and asked she meet us somewhere to exchange. She seemed a little annoyed by this.
As expected the exchange was terrible, S4 through himslef on the ground crying and i had to just let her hold onto him and leave. I drove around the corner to watch and make sure he calmed down. After 10 minutes she finally got him to go. This is killing me.

Facetimed them at bedtime and this morning and more of the same, him asking me to come pick him up and crying then being very upset.


I am looking for some advice from those with experience here. I need to speak with W about him. I do not want ot be causing any damage to him. I want to let him be with me when he wants, even if it means me going and getting him just for bedtime etc..I think the amount of time between seeing me is too much for him.

I know i dont know until i talk to W, but her past attitude towards this type of thing is that he will get over it eventually. I do not share the same view, I fear we are going to have some problems with him because of this. Anyone have any thoughts on this?