Might I suggest an alternative to having "the talk"?
Instead of asking for a verdict, how about switching tactics a little bit?
How about be less available? Going dim? Don't be her taxi as much. Help out sometimes, but let her start to wonder about you when you say "Sorry W, I can't get the gets tomorrow. I have plans (and actually have plans)".
She might be settling into a nice routine where she gets to do as she pleases and has you in her hip pocket to call on when she needs some help.
If you are resolute in trying something new, go dim (and don't be a jerk about it). Just start to act as if you are moving on.
Start doing things that are exciting and push your comfort zone. I'm sure your kids will tell your w about them. Go skydiving, or take scuba lessons. Or salsa dancing lessons. Or anything that's out of character for you. Create some excitement in your life. Start living like James Bond! Don't share any of this with W. Your kids will pick up on it and will start talking to w about how cool their father is.
You are emotional right now, understandably. But reacting from emotion is the WORST time to have a talk with W.
You need to act completely UNFAZED by not having your pictures up in the house. Why? Because that's what James Bond would do!
