Az, thanks for the reply. What I and the boys want obviously doesn't matter to W. Dropping the boys off after church was only an extra 5 minutes from my rental, but saved her 1.5 hours driving. We are supposed to do the kid swap there. I felt like W was reconsidering, due to some of her actions. Opening up to me, sitting with me (after we had the talk of only sit with me if we are working on us). Yes, I guess I have hope up until it's final.
Money: I pay support and half the mortgage, until D is final. Then, no more mortgage and she has to buy me out.
Kids: I would do anything for them that I can. Easy to manipulate me there. How long is it ok to lead them on? I hear it every time I see them and they have told me that the don't talk to W about it. I have seen why, she blows them off.
Holidays: we are supposed to split them, somehow. If we can't agree it goes by some child support guideline book that is an inch thick.
I have set some plans. I am designing a house to build. I have been looking at newer vehicles. I want to spend time with someone who enjoys being with me and I have fun with. W or someone new.
To me, once it is over... it's over. I have tried to make her happy from BD to S. Then from S to her filing, I was trying to work on myself, but not living for myself at all. Since I have gotten my own place, I have been gal. I have a few plans made with family and friends coming up.
If she is done, why not just be done. Why lead me on. Why lead the kids on. I'm enabling her, I am afraid. She hasn't really faced any kind of consequences. I have. Kids do. Not her, she's sitting pretty with everything we had built together, and I'm not in the picture. Literally now.
So, what are my options. Suck it up and let her keep doing this. Ask her on a date. Pull back, way back. Ask if this is what she still wants. ?
Last edited by dday; 11/09/1502:34 PM.
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
