in house seperation (3)

[vise82]

Hey mutatio,

That is a good way to put it:

I would let her do the heavy lifting. If this is the path she wants to follow then she should do the work. I will not aid and abet my wife in her wholesale destruction of our marriage and family. That will be done solely by her.

When this S talk started she tried to get me on board saying asking if I was happy and that we deserve to be happy, THat we don't deserve to live like this its bad for the kids.

So that's how you solve it. I knew at the beginning, this is not how I wanted to deal with the way the marriage was, I wanted to work on it. It just seems like a waste of all the time we had together to walk away. And that I still love her.

She wanted us to be friends and live separate lives but co- parent and do everything together. It was all a contradiction.

So where her mind was at is she lost respect for me and lost attraction to me. But I am great with the kids. Great father, poor H.

She sabotaged this marriage for a while, she stopped kissing me two years ago when we had sex, her head would turn away. But she would tell me its not me its her and that I had nothing to worry about she still loved me. She would refuse to have sex. She wanted me to do non sexual touching, but she wouldn't do it her self. The missed communication is just sad.

I am mad at her for not being truthful to me about this stuff and her keeping it in. And for not wanting to work on it with a MC. And for not making me feel special in this MR. That I was just a place holder, an easily exchangeable ingredient in her recipe of her version of life.

So Christmas is coming and I think she is going to ask me if I am going to spend it with her family with our kids, like nothing is happening just for the kids so that they have a nice Christmas. Just like last Christmas.