in house seperation (3)

[vise82]

hey,

Yesterday was ok, W was home, the new neighbors were out with there kids, so my kids played with them. W was outside and metions to then that she was at a conference and came home to a dirty house and a pile of dishes. More disrespect as the house was clean yesterday as the babysitter cleaned it. W never found out about the sitter.

I hear this and go in and clean one room that was dirty, as I should but didn't have time yet, its something that would get done with the kids asleep.

I was looking to buy some used soccer shoes and was texting a guy about them in front of my W, and I never text anyone, she get up and goes inside.

That's the way it is these days now she is in one room with one kid and I am somewhere else with the other kid.

Really we get along well sometimes that I don't understand why she wants this separation. This is stuff we could work on.

I was disappointed after the she came back from her conference and nothing really changed. I thought she was going to say she cheated on me or that she missed me.

I know I am not to expect things like that and the changes are for me, so I need to change how I think about this DB.

W took the kids to her parents house for sunday dinner, I went to soccer, I wasn't home when they got home, W texted me but I didn't check my phone till after I got home. That was a mistake and more of the same (a W complaint about me in the MR).

I don't see how this S is going to happen as money is so tight, with no savings and a pile of debt. Then She wins the free online house listing just to mix it up. I wish we could sell and move together just to get us in a better financial place right now, our neighbors beside us did that and bought a smaller house but made a lot of money with the sale of their house.

So no big blow up, we are not arguing, and part of me wants to try and see if I can get a better loving partner, and the other part of me wants this MR to work out.

I just don't understand how she can fall out of love with me and not want to be with me. After all we been through. After al the crap I hear about how bad of a relationship her cousins have and they are still together. Either my W has high standards or her cousin has really low standards.

So going forward, she wants a separation agreement, I asked her to write it and then I will give my input after that, for selling the house, I am working on me and selling the house is not helping me to getting a better place so right now I don't want to sell.