you are waaaaaaaaaaaaay to early in to throw in the towel. I hear you, I really do, but this is a marathon, not a sprint. You are only a couple of months in this and it is going to take time to turn the tide (if ever). You have to focus on you, work on you and detach. We all said that doing things for you wife will get you squat and that's what you are getting. In her eyes and twisted logic, things are actually better now, she got BD off her chest and she can live it to the fullest now. Of course her logic is flawed, but she does not see it.
IMO being a friend to the W is wrong, because she has you on standby just in case her other plans fall through.
