Huddy, sounds like you're doing really well and processing this in a healthy manner.

I would think of it as the kids' rights instead of your and her rights - and maybe suggest that you both attend a class for divorcing parents to handle this without high conflict.

Best wishes! Do you have a moving date set?

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17