LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M (4)

[sandi2]

I've been praying this week God would show me signs of progress.

"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Heb. 11:1

any ideas on how I should handle the question about not wearing a ring?

Mostly, say nothing. You can shake your head and say, "Unbelievable!" and walk away. Do not react to her reaction. Do not answer her questions. If she starts saying things about 21 yr old girls, just let her stew in it. She started this mess, now she needs to learn she doesn't get to dictate your life. Let her think whatever she wants to think. This seems to be difficult for LBH'S, but the more you try to convince her she's wrong......the worse she'll get. Just walk away from her tantrums.

Btw, those calls she made that you considered "reaching out", seem more like her holding on to her control. The WW does not want to let her H go free to do his own thing. She'll use the kid as her hook to stay latched on to his life. She has a sense of entitlement, and she has a very double standard. It's just fine for her to be flying off and seeing BF, and knowing you are back home being a dutiful father, staying busy taking D to BD parties, etc.

There use to be a poster here whose W left, and she made sure she found activities for the kids to do during his scheduled time with them. She'd enroll them in some kind of sport, or accept invitations for them. He finally wised up and told her to knock it off, and that he would do whatever he chose to do with his kids. I'm telling you, she'll think she's entitled to tell you what to do with your little girl during your time with her.