do you think she even realizes she's temp checking or does she just assume I'll jump to help her as I have since the beginning of our R?
I don't even think she realizes it. I do think she's surprised when I don't jump and says to herself " you see he doesn't love you. This d is the right choice" Trying to justify her A's and D
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Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Exactly....she just assumes I'll jump to help her and is surprised when I don't. she's surprised I don't give her back the MBR. She's surprised when I don't jump when she TELLS me her list of chores she wants done. She doesn't even realize she's temp checking but she's getting a dose of what it'll be like when I'm not around.
Sandi- you should have seen the anger and jealousy over my new truck. She actually said " well now you'll cute picking up those 21 year olds at the gym" " Instead of taking on a bigger truck payment why don't you pay more in child support?" LOL! It was comical. I wanted to laugh. It's nice to know she thinks 21 years are chasing me around the gym.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
She has a flight in the morning. As soon as I got home she was leaving. She told D4 she would call her tomorrow. I said very cheerfully "leaving for your trip?" She said "Yes" I said "be careful" she said "thank you" I know 2 of her boyfriends live on the airport side of town. My head knows she needs to spend time with these dirt balls to see they aren't as awesome as I am. Trying to not be emotional about it.
I've been praying this week God would show me signs of progress. Maybe it's bc I'm upset but I feel she's being set up for a big fall. She's leaving a wonderful and loving husband who God has showed me this week i'll be able to afford to keep our home that we both love. She has taken a new job so she most likely will not be able to get a loan to get a new home not to mention in our town she would have a hard time affording much more than a condo. She's really going to struggle to be able to buy or rent anything with 3 bedrooms. Maybe that will be her rock bottom but it may not come until after the D. After the D i'm afraid I will be done. No taking her back
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
I took my ring off last night. Not to get a reaction out of her bc she isn't here. Assessing my feelings about it...... Not sure if I did it to get use to it or bc she hasn't been wearing her's for several months or maybe I've had enough?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Don't think about it too much. I kept mine for a while then went o only wearing it not around her. Then I eventually stopped wearing it. It is more of an acceptance thing about the situation.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
I took my ring off about a month ago. Funny thing is my H was not wearing his for a while and when I stopped wearing mine, he put his on again. I asked him about it. He told me he still feels married. I don't live as his wife, we have been physically separated for over 7 months, so I don't feel the need to wear it anymore. Confusing!!! Lol
The whole ring debacle is a mess. In the end it's just a piece of jewelry. It's how you feel inside. I still love my H with all my heart, with or without the ring.
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
I've been wanting to take it off but wanted to make sure I wasn't doing it to get a reaction out of her. It needs to be for me and my detachment. This weekend will give me time to assess how I feel about it.
Also prepping the conversation in my head in case I decide to leave it off. I know she'll ask. Not sure how to respond.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Well....she's already reached out twice today. She sent a text early this morning asking me to tell D4 that she loves her. I didn't respond. And then she just called a couple minutes ago. I was out of the room. She sent a text that said "don't forget about D4's friend's birthday today". I'm not going to respond.
Still nothing to hang my hat on just a journal entry
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
any ideas on how I should handle the question about not wearing a ring? I'm expecting to her something like "see I told you you were ready for this divorce too, you're such a hypocrite. How many girls did you have in my house this weekend? You better not be introducing my daughter to any of your 21 your old sluts you're f...ing."
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
