A new thread for Eye-Tie

[JulieH]

Havhope

Sometimes I wonder if I don't want to leave this marriage because I am afraid of change. Or if I'm fighting for a marriage I never really had. Or perhaps I have had such a small number of relationships and I am settling because I don't realize there can be someone better for me out there.

I am tempted to date. I feel like it would be a distraction. I feel like it would make me less angry at him for possibly (probably) being with other women if I was with another man. How could I be angry if I was doing same thing?

I am disappointed in my husband for being capable of leaving his family for his in laws to take care of and support. It demonstrates his selfishness. I am not sure if a lot of my resentment and hypercritisiscm torwards him in the past was unfair or a response to some pretty selfish behaviors as well... I understand your inability to forget about how she treated you when you were sick. I keep remembering an incident, when I was pregnant I was diagnosed with cancer and had to have it surgically removed. (Thankfully it was early stage) 2 days post surgery he was waking me up early in morning cause he wanted to sleep and needed me to watch the kids. We got into big fight and he undermined the whole experience because it was early stage (didn't know this for fact till day of surgery) . He did apologize though. I had been spotting a lot and was just so tired and had been under so much stress. (Ended up losing pregnancy) Why couldn't he just watch the kids and suck it up? I'm sure he could come up with incidences where I behaved selfishly as well though? . Or perhaps at this time he was just detached from me and really didn't care. Regardless, it's hard to really forget and I was very resentful after this and other similar instances.

I like reading your sitch, because I want husband to miss us and regret leaving and for me to have that power back just like you.

I am told by some that he is giving me an out and that this is a gift.