In the UK - need help (pt15)

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So, I wanted to take my D to a fireworks evening tonight. I have been planning it all week. Amazingly, this morning, my W says she is planning on doing the same thing. Would you believe it, never has she shown any enthusiasm for taking any of the kids to a bonfire night, but as soon as I say I'm taking my D, she's off like a whippet.

Now, this obviously caused some friction, as my W says she is taking her. I don't want to fight about it, but I did reaffirm that it was my plan and that was what I was going to do. This then turns in to an argument about visitation when we go to separate houses in four weeks time.

My W says she is going to work during the week, so she can have weekends with the kids. I told her that plan was unacceptable and that I would be having the kids at weekends, and if that she wasn't going to be reasonable, we'd have to let a court decide.

W then laid in to me to suggest it wasn't fair because she wouldn't really see the kids during the week, because they'd be at school. I then reminded her it was her who was causing the problem. W then tried to argue some more and brought up the fact I went on a small GAL activity last night (a leaving do at work - I was back in the house for 1940hrs) saying that 'you won't want the kids when you want to go out'. I told her my priority was the children.

I can still see the rebellion in her eyes. She has no feelings of loss (how can she really, we're still in the same house) and I don't think she can comprehend the sh1tstorm that is going to come her way when she finally has to cope on her own.

The most comforting part, for me, was that I felt absoloutely no needyness, no begging, no pleading. I don't know if that makes me some kind of monster, but I didn't feel anything really. I did have a nightmare during the night about being on my own, but I didn't feel any sadness this morning during the exchange. I don't know if I should still be feeling this or not?