I would say definitely no PA but I can't be sure about an EA. W has a non typical relationship with a man who has mental and physical problems. She is a caring and compassionate person and tends to take life's waifs and strays under her wing. She says he is a good friend. They text and phone each other. She doesn't hide it away and will carry on talking to him with me in the room. I have met him and know him vaguely as his D went to the same primary school as my sons. If my MR wasn't hitting the rocks I would be fine with it. I want to invite him and his W to dinner as a way of defusing this situation.
I have to regard it as an EA. I am not in denial about it, just trying to not let it eat me up.
As regards progress: there is none.
Last night we went to a fireworks display with two other families. There were fairground rides, hotdogs, a huge bonfire and two firework displays.
It was the first time W, I and the kids had been out together socially with other families in 6 weeks. It felt horrible. W wasn't cold or distant and the kids had a fun time but for me it was torture, knowing in the past we would be holding hands, or me putting my arms around her to keep her warm and us watching our kids have fun together.
I didn't expect any of those things but it was still hard to know that the facade that we portray to the other families is built on sand. W hasn't told at least 3 of her best GFs about the Inhouse separation - just 'we are having problems'
All I can do is take each day as it comes and do the best for me and the kids.
Going to review my goals and NUTS tomorrow.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
