Just letting you know that I am finishing up reading you sitch. I'm still formulating my thoughts, but this is what is on top.
The co-dependence thing is definitely jumping at me. I can't quite put my finger on it yet, but there is something in it that needs to be explored further.
When I read your sitch I get the sense that your are on the edge of something profoundly life-changing and amazing. I am firmly of the belief that when the soul knows and wants to make change and action there is no stopping it. My sense is that potentially whatever is happening in your marriage, is about a contentment or outstanding need in your soul, and that wife's detachment, is the shove you need to connect with your souls work.
I feel that the sooner you come to grips with this being more about YOU, MATATIO and less about wife, the sooner you will have some peace and movement in your sitch. There's a destiny Matatio that your soul is wanting you fulfill. Your wife is providing you sign posts.
Look that is my gut read. I say the above, and you will find this yourself, that there are some sitches that it seems clear, yip this is wife's soul work. But I feel there's something here just for you. V has been edging closer and closer to it with her questions.
There is a way of thinking that I find myself trapped in at times. That what I am thinking and feeling is all that there is, that the resolution of this issue in front of me is all that matters. But really the universe being as it is, this current issue is a stepping stone to a potentially larger more abundant experience. And yet here I am stuck wondering what I can do to get my ex to talk to me. You are thinking too much and too small. My gut tells me, you are asking the wrong questions. A life and souls destiny is bigger. Particularly in this instance with you.
What I have also found over the last 12 months, is there is peace in silence and doing nothing. I have been thousands of miles away from my Mr Ex for 13 months, and I would say that for six of those months maybe more, it was like he was your wife living in the room next door. The silence between us reigned and thundered. For me it was deafening. When I realised I had to suck it up, this is how it was, and I needed to get comfy with it pretty quick. I sat with it and eventually found my peace.
Being in your home with your wife, could be an act of meditation. An act of sitting and seeing and feeling the silence and doing nothing but experiencing peace. Letting the mind wander, the feeling the beginning of it and letting it go and coming back to yourself. This is meditation. Your initial posts ( and mine) reek of being outside of yourself. And I guess this brings me full circle to the co-dependency. Co-dependency is the ultimate form of being outside of one's self.
You dear Matatio are on the verge of greatness and you don't even know it.
These are my feelings and thoughts for what little they are worth.
