Working on improving Ghost

[ATPeace]

Sandi2 huddy fog Azzork angel v and everyone I have missed you have always been great without your help over the last few months I would not be here

So many of you have taken time out of your lives to try to help me and all I have done is go round and round in circles

The last two weeks my wife has been working nearly every night so I have had the kids most evenings soon she will be not working so this will mean she will be going out clubbing again meeting her friends and I have to accept this

If I knew my life would be like this I would certainly have done things differently

I will try to take a week off try to get myself in a better place

I know too many try's so am setting myself up for a fall already but will focus on me

[Azzork]

Sandi2 huddy fog Azzork angel v and everyone I have missed you have always been great without your help over the last few months I would not be here

So many of you have taken time out of your lives to try to help me and all I have done is go round and round in circles I am learning how to use the advice Ive been given in a positive way.

The last two weeks my wife has been working nearly every night so I have had the kids most evenings soon she will be not working so this will mean she will be going out clubbing again meeting her friends and I have to accept this I will have more time to GAL and spend individual time with my children.

If I knew my life would be like this I would certainly have done things differently It is time to evaluate my life as is and determine how to move forward in my own best interests

I will try to take a week off try to get myself in a better place

I know too many try's so am setting myself up for a fall already but will focus on me I will continue to review my goals and ensure that I am working towards them in all that I do.


Look at what I wrote. It says the same things without being self-defeated, without the self-pity.
How will you change your mindset to THAT?

[Huddy]

Whoa! The 2x4's are for your help. We're not going to abandon you. YOU CAN MASTER THIS.

[sandi2]

Absolutely! If you don't want to take a few days off the board, then don't. I am not trying to get rid of you. I am concerned about you. It just seems that you need a rest so that your mind will be more at peace. Do what Ghost wants to do, okay?

[Azzork]

To be clear, I didnt necessarily mean a break from here.

I meant a break from worrying/thinking/obsessing about your situation. Just try to "float" for a little while.

[ATPeace]

Thank you Aazork you write things so beautifully I have a lot of respect for you and Sandi2 ...huddy well he is Scottish so I would not expect him to mix his words 😜😜😜

I do understand it is a mindset right now I am feeling totally fine my W is not here and I am not feeling any sadness whatsoever I am not right now dependant on my W for my happiness however earlier I was with my little girl and was just walking up and down the shopping isles trying to keep her entertained trying till time and I was feeling very very low and almost crying so it does seem to be much worse when I have time to think and reflect on what has happend or is happening

Time will heal me but I think I am going to need a fair bit of time ....each day I am finding a little bit of strength

I will try to spot the signs the triggers the things that get me started then try to find ways to avoid them because right now I feel great

I will log what causes me to start to wobble

Thanks for everything

Ghost

[Fogg]

Sandi2 huddy fog Azzork angel v and everyone I have missed you have always been great without your help over the last few months I would not be here

So many of you have taken time out of your lives to try to help me and all I have done is go round and round in circles

Its a long process and we all go back and forth, circling around, yo-yo'ing, whatever phrase/term you prefer. Early on I seen it described as a yo-yo going up the stairs. Some days you will be high and others low. Sometimes that yo-yo will dip lower than a step you were on months ago but as long as the overall trend is upwards then you are making progress. (yes, you are making progress).

[Huddy]

Morning Ghost

I'm not Scottish, but my home city is from a part of England that is more straightforward with it's wording than southerner's are used to!

We've got your back here, but you're just getting far too worked up. Azzork says you need to relax. That's right. Give yourself a bit of you time. I sometimes just go for a ride on the bus or the train; on my own, but that just gives me space to watch the countryside unfold and let me take a break. GAL doesn't have to be madcap ideas and overstretching sports.

I understand you want to fix this, we all do. Right now, we can't. It doesn't matter what you want to do, your W will not pull in the same direction. WAW/WW's are so stubborn, it'll kill them one day!

[mutatio]

Ghost have you ever heard this expression, "Work smart, not hard". I think your working way to hard and not showing the results you would like to have. I recommend you evaluate your approach and try attacking the problem a different way. The people in your corner can guide you.

What can it hurt to try something new?
How can it make things worse?

[ATPeace]

Sorry huddy to assume see I can even get this wrong 😜

This is cranky a rolla coaster and I hate not being in control

I am thinking it would be a good idea to try to journal triggers that make me feel sad and get upset and the things that make me feel happy

My W and eldest daughter are off to a hen night today so it has not been easy seeing her get dressed up short skirt and makeup she says she is not looking but she is showing and I know she will be having a fun evening

I have the three remaining kids and will be taking them off to a firework display

Day by day step by step