Hey Barbie, I'm not posting much these days but wanted you to know I'm still reading your updates.
Not much I can say to this. It's not a fun place to be for sure. And I doubt H is going to come around anytime soon. While most A's don't turn into lasting marriages, that doesn't mean they can't last years and tear apart families.
It sure does seem like OW has her cat's claws in the situation. She's afraid of letting him talk to you. She's terrified of letting him do anything on his own. You and I both know that's not going to build a lasting R, I don't know many men that would live like that for long. But yes, it stinks to have to deal with her and her attitude. Especially if there are undertones that she's "won" your H, when in reality she is selfishly destroying a family and clinging to someone she won't keep in the end.
You're getting out of the danger zone, the first few months after BD that is. It will get easier. I cared at one point what others thought of STBX vs. me. I don't anymore. The sad fact is that many people in this world are accustomed to this type of thing and think that leaving a M should be applauded because it shows you're standing up for yourself and not settling, etc. This is such a load of hogwash. But many people think this way, and good for them, they can all go screw each other's spouses and enjoy their 12 month endorphin rushes while searching facebook for their next A partner in their series of 5 year relationships.
The only thing I can really wonder about is this post had little to do with you. It had mostly to do with WAH and OM. That's why I think no one really had much to say. As long as you focus on them you'll be kind of stuck. Only when you put the focus on you and your life are you free to start getting back control. This is a great place to vent, so by all means it's better to post here than to walk around her car twice with your sharpest key (for example). But do challenge yourself to talk further about what you've got going on. Any news on the barbie front?
Hang in and keep posting.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
