Separated for 15 months now

[getrite]

The hard part is that she always comes to me for emotional support when things are not right with her BF. It tears me apart. She says she is going to leave him and then she doesn't. The most recent thing that happened this week was that her boyfriend got physical with an old flame of his. She cried on my shoulder about it, then says she is going to stay and try to work it out. She told me the other day that she says a lot of mean stuff to me to push me away, and apologized for it.

I get so emotional with her because in my mind she should just leave him and come back, but there is something that I do not understand keeping her there. Our texts always turn into me getting emotional and it upsets her. She says she still needs to find out who she is and what she wants.