Wow Ghost dont beat yourself too much buddy. We all make mistakes. I can relate to your tread. I too became aware that I was part an abuser in this relationship. I was a silent abuser , i never shared my emotions and slightly neglected my wife and daughters by not spending time with them. I did get help by a counselor who made me realize my mistakes. But it comes a point where you understand your mistakes but is not all your fault. What caused you to be like that ? what did she do to make you react that way? In my relationship she was verbally abuse to me and i eventually believed everything she said to me as me being pathetic not a good husband , not a good father , not a good provider etc you name it , i accepted i was. It kept the cycle going , she called me those things i believed it so i neglected her. You are not a raping abusing husband just because you didnt get enough sex , hell everyone here would be labeled as one. Dont beat yourself up so much. You are better than that.
