Time for a new thread. This is a vulnerable phase in my process of growth, I think. The seedling is still so vulnerable and likely to get overrun or neglected. I think I started the weeding process by eliminating distractions that were stifling my growth.
Finding a job, and GAL are all ways to provide water and nourishment to help me grow. I am in a phase now where the initial shock has faded and my new life is beginning, time to keep it going.
Here is the last post from my previous thread.
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Originally Posted By: Ancaire . My husband fits more into the on or off description. Charming to outsiders or people he wants to impress - nasty to me, his safe place.
Does any of this describe your H?
This is my H to a tee. HE would be nasty and cranky about having to do something, then light and breezy and fun during the event--I'd feel relieved and think, oh he had a good time in spite of not wanting to do this thing--then he'd go right back into nasty.
For years he'd assure me it had nothing to do with me. Yet the nasty persona was reserved for me and the kids. Now he is light and breezy in front of the kids even when I am around, unless OW is nearby, then he puts on the rage face. One thing I am grateful for is that he is on a mission to be "perfect dad" so the kids aren't seeing his ugly side anymore. I wonder what will happen when that persona no longer fills his need. Hopefully, it will last--for the sake of the kids. As angry as it makes me that he couldn't be like that from the beginning.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
