One area where I know she feels betrayed is that I would pressure Her into making love
That blows my mind.
For the record, when I suggested counseling, it was not to help you do all the things she wanted you to do. It was b/c of your obsessiveness and how you go into these tail spins.
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All I know is that with my current state of mind I would agree to pretty much anything and I am very much susceptible to suggestion that I have done wrong and I am willing to take the blame on pretty much anything and everything in the hope that I could save my marriage
That is what some of us are trying to tell you. This^^^^^^ is not healthy. Everyone can make improvements, but you have to be free to be yourself. If you are scared to call your W b/c she accuse you of controlling her............what kind of life would that be?
To be willing to become her slave and puppet is not going to give this M anything but more of what you have right at this minute. You will live in total fear and misery.
Stay off Google. Go get therapy for YOU, not the MR.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
