Claire, I agree on the yelling, cursing, and screaming/shouting in anger. I wasn't seeing "raising his voice" being to that degree, but perhaps you are right. My H raises his voice, at times, but it is not yelling, cursing, etc. I don't like it, but never saw it as abuse. Thanks for bringing that up.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
