She Wants me to leave...no way! 3

[isittoolate]

Her inability to sleep and her moodiness is not because she's being pushed out. That is scripted BS. My w didn't get out of bed for 2 weeks. I really couldn't care less. Truthfully, once I got past the fear and frustration of it, I realized I didn't care and that it was all just adolescent emo nonsense.

I don't know what it is-is it their plan falling apart? Is it guilt? I dunno, don't care. In truth, I think it's because they realize they're losing the control. That's why I said go to karate. She has this whole super, single mom thing going on, but here you come "taking over" and probably doing a better job, and you're taking away her "story" (which is a loss btw) and doing and writing your own. Good work.

OG - that sums it up nicely

I have stopped acting out of fear, with very little anxiety, and my balls are growing. Last night I handled the situation very well even after a few glasses of wine. I was unemotional, rationale, kind, caring, warm, validating, reasonable, reassuring, supportive.

So W thinks I'm 'pushing her out'

Me 'pushing her out' LOL! she was doing it to me for months FFS!

Its because I've stopped including her on some kids stuff and have taken over some of the super-mom stuff.

Last night me going to swim with S8, while she cooked dinner, then me watching soccer with S8, was just role reversal.

In the UK, we 'celebrate' Guy Fawkes night this weekend ...bonfires and firework displays either private or public.
Tonight I am taking the boys to the local Rubgy club for the bonfire, fairground rides, , hotdogs, a beer or two for me, and two fireworks displays - it should be fun! A whole bunch of friends will be there as well with their kids. I have invited W but I act like I don't care if she comes or not.

Then Saturday she is away all day again from 06:30 to 7-8pm at an all day dance/exercise extravaganza about 2 hours drive from home. She is going with GFs from the gym.
BUT she will be missing our private firework display in our garden. She might cut the gym day short to get back earlier - we will see.

Also I have booked a one night stay in London for me and the boys,on 12th Dec to see Xmas lights and Winter Wonderland. Normally W would go...but not this year. I haven't invited her as it would mean sharing a bed. To complicate matters its also her birthday on 19th Dec. Quite often we would have a special weekend in London to celebrate her birthday just before Xmas - not this year.

How to I feel? I haven't felt this good for a long time