Julie, until Mustardseed brought it up, I hadn't really made the connection. I'd be very suspicious of that many liquor bottles! Sadly, though, even if drinking is part of the problem, until your H starts to realize it for himself, he will be blind to the fact that alcohol is enabling him to make really bad decisions.
Alcoholics tend to be "on" or "off". They can be charming one second, and vile the next. "Poor me" seems to be the universal battle cry. Managing resources is something they struggle with. Moody - angry, tearful, happy, fun, scary. My dad could cycle through all those emotions in an hour. "Chaos" is the word I'd use to describe my dad. My husband fits more into the on or off description. Charming to outsiders or people he wants to impress - nasty to me, his safe place.
