Lord, Mutatio, if that man pours on the charm, I'm toast! I'm glad you brought it up as a possibility, or I really might be caught unaware. It's hard to love him so much while being aware that unless he makes huge changes, he's toxic to me. It does help some that I've finally realized he's got a drinking problem. It helps me take a step back. My dad was an alcoholic, and growing up with him was chaotic and confusing...just like my current situation.
I vow to be nothing more than pleasant should H suddenly start being charming. I will leave his company ASAP, and start posting here instead of being sucked in by him being nice for a change.
