Thanks, MS. I understand so much better now that I realize this is new to you, too. I feel the same way about my H - love or hate, nothing in between.
You've also got me thinking. My dad was an alcoholic. I went to Alanon as a child, but some of the stories I heard in there scarred me so much, very little healing actually took place. H is without a doubt an alcoholic now. It's like my dad all over again. Once I get some of the bigger messes cleaned up, I really need to look into Alanon again. I bet I get far more out of it as an adult. These relationships with the two most important men in my life, and the destruction done by their drinking problem, has probably scarred me in ways I don't even realize.
Thanks for being willing to share what you've learned. It's really helping me a great deal.
