Mutatio, you are an awesome man. Your W knows this. Whatever she us going through, is hers to deal with. You are an innocent bystander on some of this. We all have played a part in the states of our M, but remember that some of this is completely out of your control. Try to not take it personally. I know that is tough, it's your W we are talking about. But, if she is angry or depressed, you may just be an easy target for it. May not be at all your fault.
I may be way off base here. Not sure. But that is some advice that I have to remind myself of. I went through sepression, and my W caught the brunt of it. So, I know first hand.
Be strong, you are a great guy
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....