Hi Ancaire, thanks for stopping by! It has honestly taken a while to get to an overall place of acceptance of reality. Trust me.... the first few months were brutal and tough... I wasn't detached at all. I'm not there yet either.. but I know this is a journey and I take it day by day to which some are better than others.
One thing I will say is that I've let her situation with OM fuel anger over time, that I've used to propel into self improvement vs. focusing on her. This has been the hardest as I would (and still) think about them. But then I turn around and review what I need to do to make me happy and sometimes almost selfishly. This anger has slowly turned to indifference about the S. But this has been easier since she moved out in September as I don't see her nor communicate with her that often.
I haven't yet caught up on your S but I will later tonight. I know you will get to a good place as none of this is ever easy.
Yeah sometimes my WW wants to be dramatic (she's been that way since I can remember) so I'm always trying to read through what she says because I've played some of these games in the past and usually ended up losing. My son will get hurt from time to time and I understand that... I also know WW can be overprotective so I try not to let her comments get to me. Considering that's her only communication in over a week, I just find it amusing that's what she focuses on. I don't feel any attack or malicious threat from what she says. Can't wait until he's 3 if as hard as I'm hearing!
Identical twins... wow! I can only imagine the frustration and exhaustion. I will not complain about my one haha!
Being a parent is so awesome and yes we cherish all the moments we have through each phase of their life.
M: 33 W: 30 T: 14 M: 9 S2 BD: May/2015 (w moves into spare bedroom one week later) EA / PA (discovered): June/2015 W moves out (living with OM): Sep/2015