Hi y'all. Well, my feeble attempt to stop being W's rescuer has fallen flat. Here is how I got there today.
I went to my Men's Group this morning at 6 am. I was shaken b/c I learned W is working with an attorney - let me explain why this shook me. We are separated for well over 2 years, and W has not hired an attorney during this time. But now she has and I was caught off guard.
Anyway, the men at the breakfast Men's Group decided to slap me around a bit. I am too attached to my M. I am too attached to W. God can do something better in my life than being with W. She is treating me like sh*t, and I was thinking of going to her court hearing on Monday to fight $750 in traffic tickets. Ya'know the rescuer thing. The guys this morning showed me the error of my thinking.
They were right, of course. So this afternoon I text W reminding her of Monday's court hearing. She thanked me for the reminder. She asked if we were going to meet there at the courthouse. My glorious, powerful response was:
"No, I'm done. I will give you your file when I pick up s14 tomorrow."
Oh, she must have melted when she received my text. The fear, the horror of having to deal with her own messes herself. She would beg, she would plead, right? No, W's response simply stated:
"ok".
Now I have seen W at court hearings before, and I know she does not handle them well. She gets very nervous. Especially when $$$ is involved. I expected an attack - but nothing?
Our separation is taking a different turn, and likely a more combative one especially if W's attorney contacts me. I am relieved at this turn of events, as I am finally releasing her to God with my prayers, and my "controlling prayers" are now stopped (example - om moves on finds another woman, W moves on from her R with om, etc.) I now see more clearly how I was hurting myself by trying so forcefully to save my M thru prayer. The result was that I was not detached.
No, W's response simply stated: