I am at a crossroad with my relationship. I would appreciate any advice. I am confused about the 37 rules and my situation based on what I just read in the Divorce Remedy Book. As mentioned previously in this thread, I was guilty of doing all the wrong actions to try to save my marriage., Begging, pursuing, Say I Love you just to hear her say it back, buying gifts, trips. You name it I did it. I have changed my approach to the exact opposite, no physical contact, no kisses goodnight or good bye. Getting a life that does not revolve around my wife. In short, not "Doing more of the same"
I am confused by what I just read in the book. We are still living in the same house and sleeping in the same bed. I am trying to change back to the way I was when we first fell in love. Baby steps.
I have not mentioned anything about our marriage since the bomb was dropped on me. I stick to small talk but the book suggest I compliment my wife on little things, showing appreciation for the little things she does for the household and the children. My wife just has her hair done and I mentioned it looked nice. Should I have done this because I would always compliment her on how nice she looked when going out or when she bought a new outfit. In fact am I doing more of the same when I comment positively on her appearance?
I am not sure if I should ask for a date night such as a dinner and a movie. I figure if I start from the beginning of building the friendship, showing her that I can be the man I was, not the insecure, grovelling crying wimp I had become, this will be a step in the right direction to strengthen our marriage.. However, the rule about going dark has me questioning what to do next.
Don't count the days, make the days count. Mohammad Ali
