Working on improving Ghost

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You're not abusive Ghost, you're a normal human being who gets annoyed, wants sex and get on each others nerves at time. I'm afraid the group you're going to is for men who like to hit their spouse or belittle them in public. Sex to them would be brutal and unloving; a tool to abuse their woman in to doing what they want them to do. An abuser doesn't provide a house in a comfortable part of south east England, with ponies for their kids and do everything to make their lives happy.

She's manipulating you here, pure and simple. I'm happy to admit that after BD, I looked in to every action that my W did and tried to see if it was me that caused that problem/complaint. After a couple of months, the complaints/problems changed just to keep me on my toes. Yeah, I was being manipulated. You've just got to realise that this is the game she's playing with you. You have to let go, detach and stand tall.