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[sandi2]

I did raise my voice in an aggressive manner

Raising one's voice is not abuse.

I did throw things about in a tempter

Tell us about it. How many times did this happen? Did you throw something at her? Were you breaking and smashing things in her presence?

I did storm out the house upset after an argument

This is not abuse.

I did feal that we did not make love enough and I put pressure on her to do it
more often this was not loving this was inexcusable

If this is an example of abuse, then probably every H on this board would need to attend a group for abusive men.

I did like to see my wife when we made love I should have accepted her right to not want me to see her naked

OMG! You are just horrible! The very idea a man would want to see his W's naked body, why I've never heard such!

I did assume that she would do the bulk of the house work something my father expected from mother

Assuming she'd do most of housework is not abuse.

I have been emotionally abusive i did nag her to make love more often

I was jealous and to some degree was trying to control her

Explain.

I thought I was being loving how can she trust me arround our children I would never hurt them but she rightly feels I have been abusive to her emotionally

You are going completely overboard. I think you think counseling!