Parents: help me parenting while separated (2)

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I am making some intriguing discoveries about myself.
I have just realized I have been living for the last years in this fog that prevented reality from being perceived.
This is interesting since us LBS are always complaining that our walk away wives are the ones who cannot get rid of the fog.
Well, they do not have the exclusive rights of the mist.
For years and years I just kept doing the same things that would not work or just not doing anything at all, only avoiding.
Now that my W has abandoned me I can breath. And I realize I did not breath for a long time, that I had all my senses numbed out, that my marriage oppressed me beyond description.
And that only now I can truly work on myself and improve.
I think this is what Cadet means when he greets all of us the following way:

Your H or W is giving you a GIFT.
THE GIFT OF TIME.
USE it wisely.