The quarrel was on Sunday. I decided to cool off and not contact her on Monday. Monday night she texts me around ten at night saying goodnight, she hopes I am having a good time and to let her know when I return from my trip. I ignore her. I was really upset.
At 1 in the morning she sends another text saying ... good thing you say you miss us. I still do not reply (there is a -6 hour time difference).
2.5 hours later at 03.30 am she sends another....still waiting.
1 minute later she sends another saying that she can see i am online and not answering.
2 hours later she sends a few sms (previous were whatsapp)asking whats wrong. Then she rings me 7 times and I dont pick up.
She then says that she rang me 7 times and she was now starting to get worried.
She then sends another couple of sms saying she will tell our son to contact me as it seems i am to busy.
I decide to call her and tell her I did not pick up because I was in a dinner (true as well) and knew that the moment I picked up we would argue and I did not want that as I was in a public place so waited until we split to go back to our hotel.
She was hysterical (could hear her tearful) threatening that she was going to call my boss thinking something had happened to me. She wanted to spew and I tried to calm her down saying I was upset at her behaviour and wanted to cool off. I admitted i could have sent a message but after her actions did not want to talk to her.
She told me the reason she was upset the day before was because I told her I had the day off and was going to go out and I did not contact her all day until I sent the message which was at night her time. I told her I finally had to do some jobs and finished late. I acknowledged I could have contacted her before but I was caught up in events and we agreed that it was not imperative to contact each other every morning rigorously. I thought we had gone past that stage and I did not want to return to the times of arguing because we were playing who contacted who first. I was over that.
Some more words were said and I told her I did not understand her behaviour as when I am back home sometimes I feel like a piece of crap and she treats me like a b rate friend. I was her husband not a friend and did not want to be one neither. I was tired of seeing other couples enjoying each others company and I was still in the no contact zone and was tired of it. If she wasnt happy with me nor wanted me to touch her to let me know and we would finalize things and move on but I couldnt go on like this any longer.
She said something happened to me on that trip and where did all this come from. I told her I was just fed up. She was free to live her life as she wanted but I wanted more.
Anyway things cooled down and we hang up. The following morning she texted me if I was feeling better and I said yes. I asked her and she said she was ok.
Things were pretty smooth these past days.
To the above however I saw a couple of strange actions. Before calling me she was searching for the lyrics of stitches and sorry. These seem to be about break ups and makes me wonder what break up. She also changed her profile status to ¨stitches¨like the song. She has this habit of putting texts or song titles to reflect her mood.
