Julie, I know you are scared about the visit access for the kids, but to be honest i don't think he'll ask for more. Your H isn't even paying his share for child support, so why would he suddenly want more time with the kids?
I think he threatens you because he knows that it's your deepest fear. Let go of that fear. I might sound harsh and selfish but when my kids are with their dad, it gives me more me time. Being a mother to twins isn't easy, and you need time to find yourself back. Take this opportunity that your H has the kids to do what you want/ like.
Your kids won't love you less because they are with their dad. You are STILL the most important person in their life!
