I have separated my phone line to my own account, and I asked him to pay for his own car, his own car's registration, and his own credit card he is charging his date expenses.
I could have done all this before, but I guess now I got pushed enough after seeing all these irresponsible charges by him while we were struggling to pay bills at home. At first H thought I did all this to punish him, giving all the bills at the same time purposefully. He said he hated me for that. I explained to him it happened to be at the same time, but that is not my intention. For example, I was going to pay for the credit card bill, until I saw he is charging his personal expenses on it. I told him I am sorry if he feels that way, but I never lie to him or intentionally hurt him, that I wish anything bad for him, which is really true. I told him me and kids are just trying to survive. He said he was sorry that he thought that way, and he doesn't hate me. He said he knows this is all his doing, and I have just sat here and taken it, which is not right.
He also mentioned that he is hoping to get another job within this month and move out by new year. Again I told him I'm sorry to hear that but I will respect his decision.
It hurts to be made so clear that he can not wait to get away and he sees no possible future with me right now. Verbally he is usually polite, and he said he respects me and kids, but his actions of course say otherwise by not providing enough money or communication with OW in our house.
My IC asked me today when it is enough for me. I honestly don't know the answer. I told her I think I will know when it is. Will I?
