Wow, mind is blown 9

[Dawgs]

I definatly understand that would be a roadblock. But on that end of it, how long can you leave a crumbling bridge go before the cones go up and repairs get done?

That is solely up to you. How much does it mean to you? Are you willing to give it 6 months? A year? More? The reality of it is there is no set time and only you know. We can give you advice, but we don't know her at all. Only you do. You can set a time and say to yourself, if I don't see anything by xx time, then I will have a heart to heart with her. She may never turn around. Or she may realize that she has made a huge mistake. You are in limbo and that isn't a fun place to be. I know, because I am sitting in the seat next to you on that limbo train...

I would say I am 50/50 on these thoughts right now. I'm not going to jump into anything serious right off the bat. If I click with somebody, maybe see where it goes? I don't want to make the road home bumpier than it has to be. I also don't want to let XF have the power to know I am sitting around single as a backup plan either. Lots of thinking to do...

See my statement above. Are you willing to do the time? Ask yourself this - if you click with someone else and the XF wants back and you decide to give it another go, wouldn't that be breaking someone else's heart? (I know, terrible analogy) There are all sorts of things to be thought about. But if there is clicking, that road home will become more than bumpier and may dang well be impassible. But that doesn't mean you have to be a backup plan, either. You are right, lots of thinking to do...