One he is her best friend and does not want to outline our problems to anyone else. Two, she wants him to feel sorry for her and empathize.
I think most women have a need to talk about their problems to someone. It may be their mother, sister, or best friend. If she has no relatives or other women friends, that could be the basic reason she's turning to him. She may not be the least bit attracted to him, however, it can always change.
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There were moments I was worried because of her EA/PA in 08. Now I have come to realize she would never do that again. Her actions in 08 bothered her to much to cheat again.
Did it start much like her friendship with this new OM?
I won't say that once a cheater--always a cheater. I cheated once, and now I take precaution, where once I just thought it would never happen. I was not the type of woman who would do such things. But let me tell you, now I believe every person can potentially be the "type" if they are hurting bad enough and the circumstances are just right (or wrong). It's not like you make the decision one day to go look for an A. I think it's normally a slower process. It is usually something else that pulls us, or attracts us, to that person (or source) that relieves our pain for a little while, or it's b/c that other person makes us feel very special and alive. But those are just my thoughts.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
