Thank you vise82.

I'm so scared at the moment. I can't stand the thought of people talking about me behind my back.

I really value the reputation I have. I've always tried to be appreciative of what others bring, to be kind, fair, positive.

I carry those values over to my work, and that is a big part of my reputation too. I've spent years working hard, and always to the best of my ability. There's rarely people I can't work with (there are some who I would maybe prefer not to work with, but if it came to it, I would be nothing but utterly professional).

As bad as I feel (and trust me, I have the shakes at the moment and feel like I'm going to throw up), from the utter humiliation of what he's doing, I feel I need to learn to deal with this, now, as I reckon there is more - and worse - to come from him.

I have a question. Should I arrange for his mum to pick up his things from our/my house? I'm scared of what he might throw at me next.


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017