Hey PP, just wanted to stop in and say thanks for the support. I sometimes find it hard to post on others threads that are doing so well, I just don't know what to say lol.
I see you were struggling yesterday also. Everyone has that urge to do something but we have to remember there's a limit to what we can do in this. They have their path to walk and since we're so far ahead of them it sometimes feels like we have to do sometime to catch them up or get their attention. The majority of the time all we need to do is let them walk their path and we keep walking ours. Growing and changing is the best do something we can do.
Very wise words Fogg. I agree that there's a limit to what we can do. I'm not sure if I'm ahead of my W or not. I know at the time of BD I was far behind her. DB'ing has led me down a huge path of growth, that's for sure, but I can't say where I stand.
All of our situations are so complex and confusing, nothing is what it appears in my opinion. My W told me two weeks ago that she started withdrawing right after our miscarriage, something you've had to deal with too. I felt that at the time and would bring it up over and over, but was told that it wasn't the case. Unfortunately I dealt with that withdrawal in all the wrong ways, and that is a big part of why we're here. Again, complex and confusing.
I agree that all we can do is walk our own path and fight like hell to be better men every day. I am not the man my W left earlier this year. Not even close. I'm sure on some level she knows it, and feels it, and on some level it still doesn't matter to her.
My growth is going to continue though, I'm sure of that.
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
