Back on these forums again 2

[Mona52]

I am clearly right, he is clearly wrong. He will never learn if everyone keeps helping him. He HAS to do this on his own.

I want more than anything for him to step up and be a man.

He is a man. He is just not the way you would build a man. Do you want a relationship with a real man? Or do you want to end that relationship by trying to mold him into someone he's not?

Just be careful Mona. Acting like your man he's not a man in your eyes will be the end of the R. If you want to continue an R then accept and approve of him as he is, with no scorecard, quirks and all. If you support your man he'll grow in his own ways at his own pace. More importantly he doesn't need to grow to be a good man. You need to grow realize he already is.

Thanks for stopping bu Zues! I am going to have to disagree though.
He has spoken to his S11 maybe 3 times in the last 3 months.

I have forced him to say hi to D15.

He has not lifted a finger to support them when he had $4500.00 in his pocket and I asked him to please give us a loaf of bread and a bag of pretzels for their school lunches.

When he lived here he spent every waking hour playing video games with his online guild.

I taught my S how to tie his tie.

When the washer breaks, I grab a wrench and fix it.

I install the air conditioners in the windows.

I pay the bills.

I earn more.

I threaten my D's boyfriends to behave.

The person I married did these things. Now he basically does nothing. He performs no job the family needs him to do.

I am glad you posted as you did, because I dont need that in my life.

I dont think I need to grow to realize he is a good man. He is not a good man. I need to grow to realize I dont need or want him.

I am not sure what I was thinking when I decided to save my M.