Hi, I got behind on your sitch. It seems that things are about the same. I am not in favor of women having a male friend that excludes her H. When she talks to him about the MR, then it will finally lead to her unmet desires, etc.
Since she knows that you know, have you tried setting boundaries?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!