Well, the workshop was interesting last night. About 12 of us there. We watched a 20 min DVD then split off into two groups to introduce ourselves. I must say I felt pretty raw and vulnerable the whole evening. My life is on a pretty steady plane now, but this does expose the wounds again - which I imagine is no bad thing for me.

I realised I'm used to being part of a community with similar aims (hope to save the M if possible) and some guiding principles (MWD's wise offerings.) However, in this group, there is a diverse mix of people already D'd (but not yet moved on) and those who want, and have filed for D. One woman married for 40 years and now getting D, a guy in a loveless M for many years, but a church leader and so maintained a facade, a guy who D'd years ago but still feels angry and bitter...

There was no-one but me who hoped their M might be salvaged. So, that was interesting and I think will challenge me. I can use the workshop to help with the aim of moving successfully on through and after our D - though it doesn't mean that 'my door' needs to close completely. But marriage saving most definitely isn't the focus of the workshop at all - the focus is on recovering from D. So, I just need to be mindful of how it fits with everything else in my life.

I met a nice woman who recently moved to my town (the workshop is 25 mins away) and has no friends and family nearby. She is keen to make friends and I'll offer her a lift next time I think. So, it will be an interesting experience I feel, and a chance to meet new people and work through the pain a bit more.

Anyway, I'm off today and going to catch up on a few jobs, see the parents later and then yoga tonight.....have a good day all xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus