Can anyone help me with finding ways to distance myself from my W I need to be able to do this

I thought perhaps write down all the things I have no control over and then let those go

I remember v saying to me along time ago that I should think about chose to accept statements just struggling but determined not to write [censored] to her

I choose to let go of what I cannot control
I am not making these choices she may feel she has no option but I inow she does
Splitting up the family is not my choice or doing
I choose to focus on me and my children and not on my W
I choose not to snoop and to let go of My fearful feelings


Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.