Hi Julie - I understand. You are aware my H is an abusive butt-head? I would take him back in an instant and forgive him everything. Should I? Absolutely not. But I would, I know it.
My point is focusing on the bad to move on might help a little, but I'm learning it's not the best approach. Focusing on YOU, however; changing what needs changing, learning all you can, maturing into the person you were meant to be...this focus brings true healing.
Things may be over - for now. Who knows what the future may bring? But right now, he's gone. So you have a once in a lifetime opportunity to self-examine like never before, and learn how to become the best Julie you can be.
Every time I focus on H, I mentally go to a place that is not healthy for me. When I focus on ME, my hopes, my dreams...life starts to look both frightening and exciting. I don't want to be alone, but figure it's high time I made some new friends.
I'm here with you, Julie. We'll get through this, and be in a great place soon.
