XH contacts kids:any thoughts

[AJM]

Peace, I think you'll find that this is helpful to your daughter. Her seeing for herself and making up her mind is something she'll have to do at some point in her life. Doing it now, with your support and guidance is likely the best of all outcomes. If it happened much later, it could be much more devastating.

As for the OW. You know by now that any comparisons to what he was before and what he is now isn't realistic. And he'll make his own decisions. But I wouldn't be surprised if more changes are in his future. Just sayin'

I come by that honestly. Somebody asked me today about a pic of my ex. I don't have any other than old family pictures, but she did post on my son's FB page a few days ago. I didn't look at the time, but did when I was asked. It's not the person I knew, peace. Looks much older than she is with very sad eyes but otherwise healthy. They sometimes are not the same. Nonetheless, I found myself wishing her the best. Not my idea of the best, but the best her life can bring her.

I remember what it was like going through the turmoil and a lot of me wishing her to leave and find that "happiness" she was looking for. I honestly hope she finds it and can share it with the kids. Who knows? She may have already. The point is that I am not to judge her current self or life. I don't know her or what is going on behind the eyes. I only know what I see every few years.

But I never wish any harm or bad things for her. Took a long time to get there and not be overly protective of the kids around her. A very long time.

Peace,
AJ