Still Struggling with a plan!

[Flight]

I really don't know if there is a set answer as to the snooping/spying/checking up on behavior. I think there is a time for it when you really need to know, like for legal action, but the rest of the time, it just doesn't help you. Isn't it about controlling their behavior? And we all know you can't do that. If you have a plan to rebuild the connection, then ask if this helps with that. For my sitch, I've stopped looking or caring. Perhaps he needs to work through this himself. But it will drive you crazy.