My H is the same way. I believe you may have noticed that. He never expected me to stand up for myself in any way. I often wonder what they think is going to happen? The temper tantrums are the hardest to watch. I keep wondering if this raging idiot has been inside my H all along, and I never noticed.
You did really well. I paid careful attention so that I can follow your lead the next time he's looking for a fight.