Thanks for stopping by spiff! It means a lot to hear that the "old dance" can be modified and used for good.

As, I truely understand your tone. Like you say the Internet takes emotion out of the text but I can feel it. I know XF didn't create everything going on in my head at that point. It just feels like she waited until the lowest point in my life to drop the bomb on me?

It would have happened. I don't want to call it out of body experience, but it was like I was a spectator. I had blinders on and one thing to accomplish. No thinking was involved. It almost felt like I was a robot with somebody else at the controls.

You are also right that I am not that person anymore! I have taken that experience and learned tons from it. I have made peace with my uncles passing. I am still helping my friend rebuild his home ( hoping to have him in for Christmas!). I have also learned an overwhelming amount about relationships. It is just now to find out who will benefit from that part of this journey?


Me 34, XF 27
Many years together
Son 4
Engaged
Not engaged
Many false starts by XF
7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life
2/17 girlfriend moves in my home