It started from a sarcastic tone W takes towards me that she is going to get her own credit card and bank account because she does not want to ruin her credit score due to my lack of ability to pay bills on time. I calmly say, ok. Then she asks, “who is Cheryl”? I reply, “Cheryl is someone I worked with at <blank>”. W says, “you better check on her she is nauseous. She texted you (was that just a WW's BS). I looked on your phone and replied back to her.” Cheryl (not her real name) has been a friend to me from the beginning and has helped me w/ my sit before I came to this board. She has health issues and continues to be a friend.
We touch upon the abortion (she immediately cries). I ask her why does she cry each time the topic surfaces. She replies because I am mad at you (she stressed that it was not a good time to be physical (that I did not listen) and that I was not there for her during procedure). My response was that I can never feel the deep emotion lost/sadness she feels; but I share similar feelings (true empathy for her makes me very sad).
W also shares that she backed herself into corner because we bought the house from her parents (that was her inheritance) so we could live in this city (rather than neighboring cities). That I changing $$ accounts locked her out of the large $$ (but I did that to protect me and kids because of what she recently did.. I do not know her and what she does). This leads her to say that she sees me as being selfish and cannot change (the other example she shares is the MBR situation) that I have never put her first.. honestly, from her viewpoint of what she shares I have no response.. but internally it kills me because she is the most important person in my life and I never showed it.
She asked me to define a R. So I shared what I learned from this sit.. how a R is about supporting and being there for your partner. She response that I was not there for her when her grandmother was dying that I made it hard for her to go see her grandmother before she died (but I NEVER told her NOT to go.. you can say I was an a$$ because I did not encourage her to go). She continued to twist it by saying, I feel she turned her back on the R when I was never there to support her (making reference to the definition of a R just shared.. suppose this is her trying to justify her A).
She shares that her parents (and grandparents) probably would tell her that the sit we are in; she needs to stop being selfish. So she takes this as she cannot be happy for herself. At that moment I felt her sadness.
The conversation ends, I take the dog for his nightly walk and receive a text from her “Tell Cheryl I hope she feels better. Hope its not the stomach flu. Or maybe she’s suffering from morning sickness. Was I not suppose to know about your conversations with her?”. I suppose she thinks I having an A (but I not AND she should know I can’t get anyone preg.. got fixed). I do not response. Question, suppose I was in an A (which I am not) why is she mad at me? She fired me as her H. Earlier this year, she told me in front of MC that she is happy that I am making changes to better myself but cannot be happy with me. What to do next?
