Change the locks. If he wants his stuff, he needs to arrange for someone else to come pick it up (like his mother). Do not deal directly with him. This is one of those little brain tricks you play on yourself to maintain contact. Box his stuff up and put it in the garage...worse case...the doors to the house are locked and he can't get in but his garage door opener can still open the garage and give him access to his stuff out there.
Thank you.
One of the next things I need to do is get a little legal advice on this.
I want to find out if he has a right to access because his stuff is there, we are married and he has been paying most of the mortgage.
If he were to come round and I had changed the locks, could he legally break the lock to get in? Because he has a right to stay there? Or would that be a crime he is committing? And could I, theoretically, call the police?
I want to be totally sure about this,nowhere I stand and my rights.
December last year he was working away and staying with a landlady. She inadvertently locked him out one night (she thought he was in his room, and he was out on the town).
When he got back, the front door was locked. He considered going round the back of the house and climbing the drainpipe to his room on the first floor, but went back round the front and bust the lock instead. I don't want that to happen...
