Angelr...I'm sorry you are here. I don't know you sitch at all. I come and go from this site as my sitch has moved considerably. But I read your last post and felt the need to make comment.
You may well have been and done all of those things on that pad. You wife may captured every instance of your poor fathering in one list. It may be completely accurate. UNTIL TODAY! Each and every one of us is only what we were UNTIL TODAY. TODAY, you can be the father that plays in his daughters room and gets on the floor, TODAY you can be the father who changes his clothes and gets all messy and wet. TODAY you are not the child who was neglected by his parents.
Your wife's listing of her observations of you as a father or husband does not define who you are in this moment. PP (Pigpen) wrote an awesome quote on Dday's thread recently which summed it up perfectly, which talks about the change we make and how someone who knew us 5 months ago would not know who we are NOW, TODAY, and requests the opportunity to reintroduce one's self to that person.
Reintroduce yourself to your beautiful children. They make no judgement on what you have done as a father till now. They are young and open to you being the exact father you want to be. Run with this opportunity. Become the father you want to be and maybe wife will see the man and husband you also are. The list on the pad is a blessing, and gift in disguise. Use it as such.
